WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:05.000 00:00:05.000 --> 00:00:08.000 LARA: So here's what I'm going to do: I'm going to give out some money today. 00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:14.000 By show of hands, how many of you would like to walk away with at least $20 in your pocket? Raise your hand and say, 'oh yeah. (AUDIENCE: Oh yeah!) 00:00:14.000 --> 00:00:17.000 Come on, you got to say, 'oh yeah' like you mean it. Say, 'oh yeah. (AUDIENCE: Oh yeah!) 00:00:17.000 --> 00:00:20.000 Awesome. How about $50 in your pocket? Say, 'oh yeah. (AUDIENCE: Oh yeah!) 00:00:20.000 --> 00:00:26.000 How about $100? Say, 'oh yeah. (AUDIENCE: Oh yeah!) Awesome. Cool, cool, cool. Just want to make sure you guys are ready. 00:00:26.000 --> 00:00:31.000 Now, we are going to give out some money today, but before we give out some money, I want to make sure you guys are ready. 00:00:31.000 --> 00:00:36.000 Are you guys ready? Say, 'oh yeah. (AUDIENCE: Oh yeah!) Let me be the judge of that. 00:00:36.000 --> 00:00:40.000 Okay, so I'm going to give you a simple test. Everybody say, 'simple. (AUDIENCE: Simple.) 00:00:40.000 --> 00:00:44.000 Simple test. If you pass this test, that means you are ready. If you don't pass this test, that means you are in trouble. 00:00:44.000 --> 00:00:48.000 Everybody go like this, go like this, go like this, go like this for a second. Go like this, go like this. 00:00:48.000 --> 00:00:51.000 Alright, camera guys, get some audience shot right now. Okay, ready? Everybody bring your hands in the air, 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:55.000 bring your hands all the way up and wave your hands in the air, and wave them like you don't care. 00:00:55.000 --> 00:00:61.000 Say, 'oh yeah. (AUDIENCE: Oh yeah!) Awesome. Bring your right arm on top of left, right on top of left, right on top of left. 00:01:01.000 --> 00:01:05.000 Left on top of right, left on top of right. Now flip like this so your thumbs are facing down. 00:01:05.000 --> 00:01:10.000 I want you to interlock your fingers this way, interlock your fingers this way. I want you to move your thumbs as fast as you possibly can. 00:01:10.000 --> 00:01:17.000 Bring your- bring your hands up high, all the way up, all the way up, all the way up, all the way up. Continue to move your thumbs. 00:01:17.000 --> 00:01:20.000 Now without letting go of your hands- I'm only going to trick you once, so pay close attention. 00:01:20.000 --> 00:01:25.000 How many times am I going to trick you? (AUDIENCE: Once.) Without letting go of your hands, I want you to flip like this. 00:01:29.000 --> 00:01:35.000 Some of you guys are going, 'I'm stuck. What's going on?' (pauses) So I'm not sure you guys are quite ready to start. 00:01:35.000 --> 00:01:40.000 So let's try something a lot simpler than that. I'm going to show you how to do the Cuban Guy sitting ovation. 00:01:40.000 --> 00:01:45.000 Now, the Cuban Guy sitting ovation- you guys remember what a sitting ovation looks like? Yes? 00:01:45.000 --> 00:01:49.000 That's when you sit down and clap. The Cuban Guy sitting ovation looks like... 00:01:53.000 --> 00:01:58.000 No, no, the Cuban Guy sitting ovation looks like this. Let's do it fast. Let's just make sure you guys are ready. 00:01:58.000 --> 00:01:64.000 It looks like this: (clapping) 1-2-3-4-5. 1-2-3-4-5. 1-2-3. 1-2-3. Miss-miss-1. You guys got it? 00:02:04.000 --> 00:02:05.000 AUDIENCE: (laughing) Yes! 00:02:05.000 --> 00:02:10.000 Some of you guys look confused. You're in college now. You should be able to count to 5. Come on now. 00:02:10.000 --> 00:02:16.000 Everybody go like this: (clapping slowly) 1-2-3-4-5. 1-2-3-4-5. 1-2-3. 1-2-3. 00:02:16.000 --> 00:02:18.000 AUDIENCE: Miss-miss-1. (laughter) 00:02:18.000 --> 00:02:24.000 Very good. Miss-miss-1. Alright, so I think you guys got it. Everybody go like this, go like this, go like this, go like this. 00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:28.000 Look to your right, look to your left. If the person right next to you is not doing this with a smile on their face, 00:02:28.000 --> 00:02:32.000 I want you to slap that person from me and be like, 'Wake up. (laughter) Seriously. 00:02:32.000 --> 00:02:36.000 Everybody go like this, go like this, go like this. Ready? On the count of three, on the count of three. Ready? Go! 00:02:41.000 --> 00:02:47.000 Everybody go like this, go like this, go like this. Don't forget the smile, yeah? Cool, cool. On the count of three. Ready? One, two, three. 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:60.000 Miss-miss-1. Let's do it one last time. Ready? One- without counting- one, two three! 00:03:05.000 --> 00:03:10.000 Not too bad, but I still think that you are guys are not quite 100% ready 00:03:10.000 --> 00:03:17.000 So, what I need from you guys is about' 7 seconds. Can you guys give me 7 seconds? Nod your head and say, 'oh yeah. (AUDIENCE: Oh yeah.) 00:03:17.000 --> 00:03:23.000 Thank you so much for being so kind to me. Okay. Everybody stand up for a second. Everybody stand up for a second. Everybody stand up for a second. 00:03:23.000 --> 00:03:28.000 Now, I do apologize for those of you who are still eating. I did give you 7 minutes. 00:03:28.000 --> 00:03:31.000 But' I'm sorry. Okay. Now what we're going to do is something real simple, okay? 00:03:31.000 --> 00:03:36.000 We need to increase the energy because research shows that the more energy you have, 00:03:36.000 --> 00:03:43.000 the more you tend to retain information. So that goes for school, or classes, or the Cuban Guy. 00:03:43.000 --> 00:03:47.000 So, my job is to increase your energy at least by 10, 20%. 00:03:47.000 --> 00:03:51.000 How am I going to do that after you had such an amazing dinner with tacos and tamales? 00:03:51.000 --> 00:03:55.000 We're going to do this real simple, okay? So what it's going to look this, like this. 00:03:55.000 --> 00:03:60.000 If I make any move, you follow me. If I go like this (snapping fingers), everybody goes... (continues snapping) 00:04:00.000 --> 00:04:04.000 Very good. If you can't see me from the back, just follow the people in the front. You'll be okay. 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:08.000 If I clap, everybody goes... (clapping) Thank you, thank you. 00:04:08.000 --> 00:04:15.000 Are you guys getting this- the standing ovation- camera people? Getting this standing ovation here? Thank you, thank you. Appreciate it, appreciate it. Thank you, thank you. 00:04:15.000 --> 00:04:20.000 Alright, cool. So, we all got to be synchronized, so I don't want to hear an echo. It's like' (claps once loudly, twice softly) 00:04:28.000 --> 00:04:33.000 Number two is, it gets kind of lonely over here. Everybody say, 'lonely. (AUDIENCE: Lonely.) 00:04:33.000 --> 00:04:39.000 So I'm not going to- you- I know you're not going to allow me to feel lonely on the front, are you? So, what we're going to do is something real simple. 00:04:39.000 --> 00:04:45.000 I don't have much time. I heard that there's another event going on in here, so I don't have time to ask for... 00:04:46.000 --> 00:04:52.000 volunteers. So I'm just going to grab somebody from the audience. What exactly the person is going to do is this: we're going to do' 00:04:52.000 --> 00:04:57.000 some... some simple Tae bo movement, or Zumba movement, okay? 00:04:57.000 --> 00:04:62.000 So you're either going to punch, you're going to kick, you're going to clap, but whatever you do is you're going to move with a lot of energy. 00:05:02.000 --> 00:05:07.000 If I go like this, this means 'energy'. Everybody say' (AUDIENCE: Energy.) Come on, you got to say it like you mean it. Everybody goes... (AUDIENCE: Energy!) 00:05:07.000 --> 00:05:12.000 Awesome. Sir, I didn't hear you. (laughter) Everybody goes... (AUDIENCE: Energy!) 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:20.000 Awesome. So... just a recap. I'm going to make some simple move. You guys are going to follow me with a lot of what? (AUDIENCE: Energy.) 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:24.000 Number two. I'm going to ask for a volunteer. The volunteer's going to come to the front. 00:05:24.000 --> 00:05:29.000 The volunteer's going to do some Zumba / Tae bo moving there, either punch, or kick, or clap. 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:32.000 Whatever you do, you've got to move with a lot of what? (AUDIENCE: Energy.) 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:36.000 Now I don't want to see anybody coming to the front and going like this... (laughter) 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:42.000 I'm talking about you move fast, because you have all these thousands of people excited and waiting for you, okay? 00:05:42.000 --> 00:05:46.000 Now that was just an example, okay? But we only got 7 seconds to do this real fast. 00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:50.000 So just go back here, I'm going to put the music' you guys are going to follow me. 00:05:50.000 --> 00:05:53.000 So you won't be able to hear me because the music is going to be loud, 00:05:53.000 --> 00:05:59.000 but just- you guys in the front follow me. You people in the back just follow the people in the front, okay? 00:06:10.000 --> 00:06:13.000 LARA: Ready? (continue clapping) 00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:19.000 LARA: Alright, ready? (unintelligible) 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:24.000 Ready? Go. (music, clapping continues) 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:27.000 Come on, you got to give it more energy than that. 00:06:27.000 --> 00:06:28.000 Come on, you got to give it more energy than that. 00:06:28.000 --> 00:06:32.000 Woah! That's good enough! 00:06:35.000 --> 00:06:39.000 LARA: Alright, you're going to' (unintelligible)' hooks. Give me hooks. Yes, go. 00:06:40.000 --> 00:06:45.000 Everybody go! (music continues) 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:48.000 Alright, go back. Go back. 00:06:48.000 --> 00:06:52.000 LARA: (unintelligible)... jumping jacks. Go. Jumping jacks. 00:07:04.000 --> 00:07:09.000 That was good for a warm-up. Let's do it real deal, okay? Everybody go like this. Go like this. 00:07:19.000 --> 00:07:26.000 Ready? (song continues) 00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:31.000 Bring it down! Turn! (song continues) 00:07:31.000 --> 00:07:35.000 Smile for the camera! (song continues) 00:07:35.000 --> 00:07:38.000 You're doing good, you're doing good. Keep on doing it, keep on doing it. 00:07:42.000 --> 00:07:46.000 Now, before you sit down- some of you guys' (gasping loudly) 00:07:46.000 --> 00:07:51.000 Like, 'I thought this was a dinner. (laughter) I'm talking about myself here. 00:07:51.000 --> 00:07:57.000 Anyway' so before you sit down, there's one last thing I'm going to ask you to do. Everybody say, 'one last thing. (AUDIENCE: One last thing!) 00:07:57.000 --> 00:07:64.000 All I'm going to ask you to do is this. It's something real simple. When you hear the music, I want you to go around the room and give a high 10 to at least 25 people... 00:08:04.000 --> 00:08:08.000 that you don't like. (laughter) Just kidding. 00:08:08.000 --> 00:08:14.000 It's like, 'Well, that shouldn't be that hard. Alright, high 10 to at least 25 people that you did not know. 00:08:14.000 --> 00:08:18.000 High 10 to at least 25 people- woah, not yet! When you hear the music! 00:08:18.000 --> 00:08:21.000 When the music stop, you're going to stop. 00:08:21.000 --> 00:08:25.000 If you see somebody still going high-10 after the music stop... 00:08:26.000 --> 00:08:29.000 You're going to smack that person to stop. (laughter) 00:08:29.000 --> 00:08:33.000 You're going to give high-10 to at least 25 people you don't know, and say the word, 'oya'. 00:08:33.000 --> 00:08:36.000 High-10 to at least 25 people you don't know, and say the word 'oya'. 00:08:36.000 --> 00:08:39.000 When the music stop, you stop. Go! ('Macarena' resumes) 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:09.000 I want you to point to the last person you gave high-10 to. Point to the last person you gave high-10 to. 00:09:09.000 --> 00:09:15.000 Awesome. I want you to reach out to that person, give a handshake to them and say, 'Howdy, partner! 00:09:18.000 --> 00:09:22.000 Now the person you gave a handshake to is going to be your partner for the remainder of this session. 00:09:23.000 --> 00:09:28.000 So... that means one thing. Don't worry. Don't worry. It's okay. 00:09:30.000 --> 00:09:34.000 That means one thing. Everyone say, 'What's that?' (AUDIENCE: What's that?) 00:09:34.000 --> 00:09:40.000 That means if that person goes anywhere, you go with them. If they move, you move. If they go to the bathroom, you go with them. 00:09:40.000 --> 00:09:43.000 Maybe not the bathroom, k? (pauses) Alright, cool. 00:09:43.000 --> 00:09:48.000 So what we're going to do is very simple. I want you to grab that person by the hand. I want you to bring them to any table in the front, 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:54.000 or in the back, but ideally the front, because you can. But do not allow them to go back to their old table, 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:57.000 or to be sitting with whoever they were sitting with when they got here. 00:09:57.000 --> 00:09:64.000 And of course, as you do that, I want you to reintroduce yourself to that person, give a couple comments about who you are, back and forth... 00:10:04.000 --> 00:10:08.000 Go! Grab that person! A new chair, a new table! 00:10:08.000 --> 00:10:11.000 Do not allow them to go back to their old tables, their old seats. Introduce yourself to that person. Say something! 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:16.000 Introduce yourself to that person. Say something! Talk to that person! 00:10:21.000 --> 00:10:25.000 You're not supposed to go back to your old tables. Some of you guys are saying, 'But I still have my taco over there. 00:10:27.000 --> 00:10:30.000 It's like, 'Hey, I don't know what happened to my plate. 00:10:34.000 --> 00:10:39.000 Alright. I guess you guys really didn't know each other. That's good. We're getting to know each other here. 00:10:39.000 --> 00:10:46.000 Cool. Cool, cool, cool. Now, everybody look forward. Look forward, look forward, look forward' look forward. 00:10:46.000 --> 00:10:52.000 Not too bad. We just' we haven't even started this session, and you've already danced 'Macarena'... 00:10:52.000 --> 00:10:56.000 did a little hula hoop... can you imagine what you're going to get by the time you finish? 00:10:59.000 --> 00:10:65.000 Now, just a little introduction about who I am. People all around the country, all around the world, people call me... 00:11:10.000 --> 00:11:13.000 A few years ago, I literally escaped on a boat from... 00:11:17.000 --> 00:11:22.000 See, when I first escaped from Cuba-- I got here at the age of 16. Everybody say, '16'. (AUDIENCE: 16.) 00:11:22.000 --> 00:11:27.000 I got here without knowing a word of English, without my parents, and I was even homeless for a while. 00:11:27.000 --> 00:11:31.000 About three years later-- everybody say 'three'. (AUDIENCE: Three.) About three years later, I went on to college. 00:11:31.000 --> 00:11:35.000 Before graduating college, I wrote my first internationally selling book. 00:11:35.000 --> 00:11:40.000 And about three years after college, I went on to create several companies. Their net worth combined, at that point... 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:48.000 was over a million dollars. People always ask, how do you go from point zero to the point where you are today? 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:52.000 How do you go from having virtually nothing to having virtually everything you could possibly want? 00:11:52.000 --> 00:11:56.000 How do you go from living your worst nightmare, living on the streets, to living your dreams? 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:61.000 What did it take? If there was one word that would reveal to us the secret of that success, 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:05.000 what would that one word be? What do you guys think? Key word to success? Anybody, help me out. 00:12:06.000 --> 00:12:10.000 Alright, motivation. Very good. What else? (audience making suggestions) Hard work. 00:12:11.000 --> 00:12:17.000 He said 'responsibility'. Hard work. What else? Dedication. 00:12:17.000 --> 00:12:20.000 Positivity. Okay. Being positive. Very good. Miss? 00:12:21.000 --> 00:12:24.000 Confidence. (unintelligible) Commitment. 00:12:24.000 --> 00:12:28.000 See, I was back in college. I will never forget this. My first class. 00:12:28.000 --> 00:12:34.000 Do you guys remember your first class in college? (laughs) That's what I'm saying. 00:12:34.000 --> 00:12:39.000 Anyway, I was just there, and my college professor showed up. Instead of writing stuff on the board, 00:12:39.000 --> 00:12:44.000 and then he put' the' you know, like the chalk'. down... 00:12:44.000 --> 00:12:48.000 I don't know, I don't think people still use chalk. Do people use that anymore? 00:12:48.000 --> 00:12:53.000 Sometimes. Some, like, people do. ' Okay, anyway. So he put that chalk down and then he said, 00:12:53.000 --> 00:12:57.000 the key word to success' and he gave me this one word 00:13:00.000 --> 00:13:03.000 Friends, I'm going to give you this one word to you. Are you guys ready for this one word? 00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:09.000 Everybody say, 'oya'. (AUDIENCE: 'Oya.) I want you to look at your partner and shake that person and say, 'Are you ready for this?' (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:13:09.000 --> 00:13:14.000 LARA: Now, come on, don't be afraid. Shake that person up and be like, 'Are you ready for this?' (AUDIENCE talking) 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:18.000 LARA: You're like, 'Man, I don't know, though. He looks dangerous. (AUDIENCE laughs) 00:13:18.000 --> 00:13:22.000 LARA: So, the key word to success-- are you guys ready? Say 'oya'. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:13:22.000 --> 00:13:26.000 He said the key word to success is the word' (AUDIENCE: 'Oya.) Very good. 00:13:26.000 --> 00:13:32.000 He said 'OYA' stands for something. He said 'OYA' stands for 'Off Your' I gotta say it. I gotta say this. I gotta say this. 00:13:32.000 --> 00:13:37.000 He said 'OYA' stands for 'Off Your--' everybody say 'Anatomy'. (AUDIENCE: 'Anatomy.) 00:13:37.000 --> 00:13:43.000 LARA: And, take action. So 'OYA' stands for 'Off Your' what? (AUDIENCE: 'Anatomy.) And take' (AUDIENCE: 'Action.) 00:13:43.000 --> 00:13:50.000 Let me illustrate. Now, let me ask you a quick question. If I was to give you $20 right now, no strings attached-- 00:13:50.000 --> 00:13:56.000 Actually, by the way, how many of you have seen me before today present at a conference, convention 00:13:56.000 --> 00:13:60.000 Anybody has ever seen me before today? (whispers) Raise your hand. 00:14:00.000 --> 00:14:06.000 One person! I'm not that famous... around here. It's okay. It's fine. I will be after today. 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:11.000 Anyway. (laughter) So, if I was to give you-- alright, so you can't say anything, okay? 00:14:11.000 --> 00:14:17.000 Okay' (unintelligible) ' and the people right next to you. Okay, cool. So if I was to give you $20 right now, right here, this moment, 00:14:17.000 --> 00:14:21.000 just by show of hands, how many of you would like to get $20? Say 'oya. (AUDIENCE: 'Oya.) 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:26.000 How many of you not only want $20, but you NEED $20? Say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) Very good. 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:31.000 Now, 'OYA' stands for 'Off Your' what? (AUDIENCE: 'Anatomy.) And take' (AUDIENCE: 'Action.) 00:14:31.000 --> 00:14:36.000 So, if I'm giving you $20 right now, right here, this very second, how many of you would like to get $20? Say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:14:36.000 --> 00:14:40.000 How many of you would be willing to use OYA to get $20 right now? Say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:14:40.000 --> 00:14:44.000 Very good. Look it, look at what they just did. They are catching on. 00:14:44.000 --> 00:14:49.000 Alright, they were off their what? (AUDIENCE: 'Anatomy.) But they missed one word. (AUDIENCE: 'Action.) 00:14:49.000 --> 00:14:56.000 If I'm giving you this $20 right now, right here, this second, how many of you would be willing to use OYA-- 00:14:56.000 --> 00:14:59.000 Give a hand, what's up for (unintelligible) here' give her a round of applause. (applause) 00:14:59.000 --> 00:14:65.000 Very good. Some of you guys did-- how many of you are really upset at that person? (as audience) 'Man, that should have been me! 00:15:09.000 --> 00:15:12.000 Let's try that again. I believe in second chances. Let's try that again 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:25.000 I don't know what was that. Anyway, so, by the way, if you did not get that $20, don't worry. 00:15:25.000 --> 00:15:30.000 If we get enough time, you might get a chance to get the next $20, $50, or $100 bill. 00:15:30.000 --> 00:15:36.000 All you got to do is' (AUDIENCE: 'Oya.) Pay attention. (laughter) 00:15:36.000 --> 00:15:41.000 Now honestly, honestly' can you guys be honest? Nod your head. (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) 00:15:41.000 --> 00:15:46.000 Look at the person right next to you and say, 'Better be honest with the Cuban guy. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:15:46.000 --> 00:15:51.000 Cool. Honestly, how many of you wanted that $20? Say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:15:51.000 --> 00:15:55.000 How many of you got the $20? (AUDIENCE MEMBER: 'Oya!') (laughter) 00:15:55.000 --> 00:15:61.000 One person. Why? (AUDIENCE talking) 00:16:01.000 --> 00:16:07.000 Why? (AUDIENCE: 'Oya.) Friends, because the bottom line is this... I want you to remember this. 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:12.000 One thing is not enough. Everybody say, 'One thing is not enough. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:16:12.000 --> 00:16:16.000 As a matter of fact, put a little intimidating face 00:16:16.000 --> 00:16:20.000 and look at your partner and say, 'One thing is just not enough. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:16:20.000 --> 00:16:24.000 See, the bottom line is you can want all you want. 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:29.000 You can want more money, you can want more success, you can want a better life, 00:16:29.000 --> 00:16:36.000 you can want the finest things in life. But unless you are off your' (AUDIENCE: 'Anatomy.) 00:16:36.000 --> 00:16:42.000 And take (AUDIENCE: 'Action.), nothing's really going to happen. True or false? (AUDIENCE: 'True.) 00:16:42.000 --> 00:16:48.000 Now, some people say, 'Well' is that the key word to success? How about being really, really smart? 00:16:48.000 --> 00:16:52.000 Now, being smart has its merit, okay? 00:16:52.000 --> 00:16:57.000 Now, but how many of you have ever worked for somebody that you knew that you were a lot smarter than that person? 00:16:57.000 --> 00:16:61.000 Raise your hand and say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) So you guys know what I'm talking about, okay? 00:17:01.000 --> 00:17:08.000 So, question for you is' Why most people don't take action towards their dreams and goals? 00:17:08.000 --> 00:17:12.000 They want something bigger and better. What do you guys think? 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:18.000 Fear, very good. What else? Fear of failure, what else? Distractions. 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:23.000 Lazy. Alright, cool. I think we're getting somewhere. So let me ask you a quick question. 00:17:23.000 --> 00:17:28.000 How many of you in this audience work out? If you work out, raise your hand and say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:17:28.000 --> 00:17:32.000 Lots of you guys work out? Sir, you work out? Thank you so much. Give a round of applause to our friend over here. 00:17:32.000 --> 00:17:37.000 Round of applause. Thank you so much. Come forward, sir, come forward. Forward, meaning all the way in the front, 00:17:37.000 --> 00:17:41.000 right here where this mic is and face the audience. Thank you so much, sir. What is your name? 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:47.000 Victor. So, you work out? --VICTOR: Yeah. I say 'workout. It's dance, but it's still working out. --LARA: Yeah. It's still working out. 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:52.000 It's still working out. So have you ever done push-ups and stuff, or that's not... 00:17:52.000 --> 00:17:56.000 Alright, how many push-ups have you ever done without stopping? 00:17:56.000 --> 00:17:59.000 VICTOR: Like, 70. --LARA: Woah! In you dreams? 00:17:59.000 --> 00:17:63.000 VICTOR: No, I really' --LARA: No, okay. Just kidding, just kidding, just kidding. 70. That is awesome, 00:18:03.000 --> 00:18:07.000 because I need a strong guy just like Victor with 70 push-ups under his arms. 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:13.000 So, he can do this. Victor, I want you to face the audience. Whatever I do or say, you always look at' forward. 00:18:13.000 --> 00:18:19.000 So I want you to hold onto this phonebook like this, Victor. Like that. Alright? Hands on top, hands on top. 00:18:19.000 --> 00:18:23.000 Alright, Victor. Whatever I do and say, you always look at the phonebook. Look at the phonebook, okay. 00:18:23.000 --> 00:18:26.000 Victor, look at the phonebook. (laughter) Good. So you're paying attention. Good. 00:18:26.000 --> 00:18:30.000 Victor, I need to give you some instructions, sir. Alright, look at the phonebook. 00:18:30.000 --> 00:18:36.000 So, Victor, what I want you do is, altogether, all at once-- everybody say, 'Altogether, all at once. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:18:36.000 --> 00:18:40.000 I want you to, altogether, all at once, I want you to tear the phonebook apart. Go. 00:18:40.000 --> 00:18:44.000 Altogether. (laughter) Victor, were you not paying attention? 00:18:44.000 --> 00:18:48.000 Everybody say, 'Altogether, all at once. (AUDIENCE repeats) Go for it. 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:52.000 VICTOR: It won't do it. --LARA: What do you mean, it won't do it? (laughter) 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:58.000 Victor, you said 70 push-ups. Just hold on a second, Victor. Just stay remaining still. Remain still. 00:18:58.000 --> 00:18:63.000 Now, how many of you would say that Victor is actually trying? 00:19:03.000 --> 00:19:08.000 Mmmm, uhhh okay. Some of you guys. Come on, be nice. 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:12.000 You just say, just tell him he tried. Everybody say, 'You tried. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:19:12.000 --> 00:19:16.000 But did he try hard enough? (AUDIENCE: 'No.) 00:19:16.000 --> 00:19:20.000 No. No, no, no. (laughter) The reason why he didn't try hard enough-- 00:19:20.000 --> 00:19:25.000 and by the way, don't feel bad. A lot of people do this, okay. They don't try hard enough. As a matter of fact, they don't even try. 00:19:25.000 --> 00:19:32.000 The reason why most people don't try hard enough, whether they're doing something as silly as this, or life in general, 00:19:32.000 --> 00:19:39.000 is because sometimes they believe that, whatever they're going through, they're trying to accomplish, looks what? 00:19:39.000 --> 00:19:45.000 Difficult. Hard. Or maybe even' impossible. Do you guys know what I'm talking about? Say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:19:45.000 --> 00:19:50.000 My question is how do you turn something that looks impossible into possible, something that looks difficult into easy, 00:19:50.000 --> 00:19:55.000 something that looks unmanageable into manageable? Now, Victor, you were on the right path, but you were too ahead of myself. 00:19:55.000 --> 00:19:60.000 So, I'm, I'm' this is my show, okay? Anyway. (laughter) 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:04.000 So, what if I give you one page, Victor? Can you tear that one page apart? 00:20:04.000 --> 00:20:07.000 Yes or no? --VICTOR: Yeah. --LARA: Yes. Give it a try. 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:12.000 Awesome. (applause) Give a round of applause to Victor over there. He feels really proud of himself. Thank you so much, Victor. 00:20:12.000 --> 00:20:17.000 Now can Victor tear this entire phonebook page-by-page apart? Yes or no? (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) 00:20:17.000 --> 00:20:21.000 So suddenly, something that looked impossible becomes' (AUDIENCE: 'Possible.) 00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:24.000 Something that was unmanageable becomes' (AUDIENCE: 'Manageable.) 00:20:24.000 --> 00:20:27.000 Something that was difficult becomes' (AUDIENCE: 'Easy.) Easy. 00:20:27.000 --> 00:20:31.000 So on the count of three, let's give Victor the Cuban guy sitting ovation. You guys ready for that? Ready? 00:20:31.000 --> 00:20:35.000 Everybody go like this, go like this, go like this, go like this on the count of three, on the count of three. Ready? One, two, three. 00:20:40.000 --> 00:20:45.000 Awesome, Victor. Go back to your seat. Thank you so much. Give a round of applause to our friend, Victor. [applause] 00:20:45.000 --> 00:20:52.000 So, every now and then, people actually miss what we just talked about, so just to recap over here... 00:20:52.000 --> 00:20:56.000 How do you turn the impossible into possible, the difficult into easy, the unmanageable into manageable? 00:20:56.000 --> 00:20:61.000 All you got to do is something real simple. All you got to do is act on small steps. 00:21:01.000 --> 00:21:04.000 Everybody say, 'act on small steps. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:21:04.000 --> 00:21:08.000 And of course, a good way to remember this is the acronym, which is... 00:21:11.000 --> 00:21:16.000 Everybody take your finger, go like this, go like this, go like this. Point to your partner, point to your partner, point to your partner, say, 'You! A-S-S. 00:21:19.000 --> 00:21:25.000 So, so far we talked about two words. Two words, two words. Sir, you can stop pointing, alright? Good. (laughter) 00:21:25.000 --> 00:21:28.000 Unless you have something going on with him. Alright, cool. Alright. 00:21:28.000 --> 00:21:33.000 Now, so far, we talked about two words: the key word to success we said is the word' (AUDIENCE: 'Oya!') 00:21:33.000 --> 00:21:37.000 Which stands for 'Off Your' (AUDIENCE: 'Anatomy.) And take' (AUDIENCE: 'Action.) 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:43.000 Then we said that one thing is not' (AUDIENCE: 'Enough.) Friends, one thing is not enough. 00:21:43.000 --> 00:21:47.000 You can want all you want, but until you actually do something... 00:21:47.000 --> 00:21:50.000 nothing will happen. True or false? (AUDIENCE: "True.") 00:21:50.000 --> 00:21:55.000 Then we said that you can turn the impossible into possible, the difficult into easy, by doing... 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:04.000 How many of you like to make a lot of money? Raise your hand, off to college, and say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:08.000 Look at your partner and say, 'I like to make a lot of money. (AUDIENCe repeats) 00:22:08.000 --> 00:22:13.000 How many of you like to have the nicest things in life? Raise your hand and say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:22:13.000 --> 00:22:17.000 Look at your partner and say, 'I like to have nice things. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:22:17.000 --> 00:22:21.000 How many of you like to make it big? Raise your hand and say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:22:26.000 --> 00:22:30.000 Make it big, like' yeah, big time. Alright, good, good. 00:22:30.000 --> 00:22:34.000 Look your partner and say, 'I like to make it big. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:22:34.000 --> 00:22:40.000 Friends, I believe you can make it big if you're willing to make it' small. 00:22:41.000 --> 00:22:46.000 Does that make sense? You can make it big if you're willing to make it small. 00:22:46.000 --> 00:22:53.000 What exactly do I mean by that? Baby steps. A-S-S. Act on small steps. 00:22:53.000 --> 00:22:59.000 Now, could it also happen that as you go and pursue your dreams, goals, and your next four years in college, 00:22:59.000 --> 00:22:66.000 you're off your anatomy, taking action, acting on small steps, doing everything you could possible ever do, 00:23:06.000 --> 00:23:11.000 and still, things might not work out. Could that happen, yes or no? (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) 00:23:11.000 --> 00:23:18.000 That could happen. It's life, okay? Friends, I believe that every now and then, life is going to throw some... 00:23:18.000 --> 00:23:25.000 tacos and stuff' I don't know' and there might be times when we might feel discouraged, unmotivated. 00:23:25.000 --> 00:23:30.000 And we might even question whether or not moving forward is the right thing to do. 00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:33.000 Friends, has this ever happened to you? 00:23:33.000 --> 00:23:40.000 When you ever question whether or not moving forward is the right thing to do, I want you to remember' my story. 00:23:40.000 --> 00:23:45.000 Now in case you're wondering, where is the Cuban guy on that boat? I was actually the person walking on water, 00:23:45.000 --> 00:23:51.000 taking the picture. (laughter) Alright, I didn't take that picture, but I did walk on water once. 00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:56.000 Alright, cool, I wasn't even there. This is just a different boat, okay. Anyway. 00:23:59.000 --> 00:23:63.000 July 9th. (AUDIENCE repeats) No, that's my line, okay? 00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:08.000 On board a small boat in Havana Bay, Cuba, there were 30 people. 00:24:08.000 --> 00:24:12.000 I was one of them. Our goal: escaping from Cuba. 00:24:12.000 --> 00:24:16.000 As we move forward through the bay, we hear a voice. 00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:23.000 Back at that time, for trying to escape, there were three. 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:27.000 Number one, you could get killed. Number two, you might drown. 00:24:27.000 --> 00:24:31.000 And number three, you might get life' in prison. 00:24:31.000 --> 00:24:37.000 All of this for wanting something better, all this for wanting to go and pursue our dreams, all this for wanting what some people refer to as... 00:24:38.000 --> 00:24:42.000 freedom. Seconds later, sirens went off. They were coming from all directions. 00:24:42.000 --> 00:24:48.000 They were coming from the right, from the left, from the front, from the back, from the bottom, from the top. It sounded like 300 fire trucks 00:24:48.000 --> 00:24:55.000 wailing the sirens all at once. See, back in our boat, we were scared. Actually, 'scared' is an understatement. 00:24:55.000 --> 00:24:60.000 We were petrified. Some people were screaming and yelling. Some people were crying. 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:04.000 Some people were on their knees praying, 'Dios mio, por favor. Some people wanted to jump off the boat. 00:25:04.000 --> 00:25:07.000 Some people wanted to stop the boat. Some people wanted to turn back the boat. 00:25:07.000 --> 00:25:12.000 In the midst of all this, the captain... of our boat steps forward. 00:25:12.000 --> 00:25:17.000 He paces back and forth. He looks straight into the eyes of the ladies, the men, the elderly, the teenagers. 00:25:17.000 --> 00:25:22.000 There is silence among those 30 people. Then and only then he said, 00:25:28.000 --> 00:25:33.000 if you think' that moving forward' now... that you feel intimidated, 00:25:33.000 --> 00:25:36.000 if you think that moving forward is going to be painful in the midst of aaaaaaaall this 00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:44.000 is going to be painful, try' turning back." 00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:56.000 We had a challenge that early morning, and the question we ask people all around the country, all around the world is, 'Who... doesn't? 00:25:56.000 --> 00:25:60.000 See, friends, as you go pursue your dreams, goals, and things you want, you know the going might get... 00:26:04.000 --> 00:26:09.000 things just might not work out exactly as you... (AUDIENCE: 'Planned.) as you planned. 00:26:09.000 --> 00:26:14.000 You know, sometimes, you might get confused, dejected, unmotivated, heartbroken. 00:26:14.000 --> 00:26:20.000 It is at that time when a lot of people think about' (AUDIENCE: 'Giving up.) quitting. 00:26:20.000 --> 00:26:25.000 It is at that time when a lot of people think about giving up. It is at that time when a lot of people think about turning back. 00:26:25.000 --> 00:26:29.000 It is also that time, if you ever find yourself in that position, when things are just not working out, 00:26:29.000 --> 00:26:35.000 when you feel you just want to give up, when you feel you just want to turn back-- it is at that time that I encourage you to ask yourself... 00:26:37.000 --> 00:26:42.000 What's going to be more painful: moving forward... or turning back? 00:26:42.000 --> 00:26:45.000 What do you guys think? What is more painful: moving forward or turning back? 00:26:53.000 --> 00:26:58.000 Back in the same' where you started? Now let's just keep it real simple over here, okay? 00:26:58.000 --> 00:26:64.000 Just by show of hands, how many of you have made sacrifices to be where you are today at this point in your life? Raise your hand and say 'oya. 00:27:12.000 --> 00:27:16.000 So that means if you give up, if you quit when the going gets really, really tough, 00:27:16.000 --> 00:27:20.000 it means that everything you've been through after that point will be for what? 00:27:35.000 --> 00:27:42.000 See, friends, if I wanted to summarize my story with a sentence, it would say that the pain of moving forward... 00:27:56.000 --> 00:27:61.000 and maybe you don't like that professor very much, and maybe the professor might not even like you back. 00:28:01.000 --> 00:28:05.000 Could that happen? Yes or no? (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) Okay. How long do you have to put up with that one professor? 00:28:10.000 --> 00:28:14.000 Everybody look at your partner and say, 'It is temporary. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:28:14.000 --> 00:28:19.000 Let's say you have to work a couple jobs so you can get extra money, but maybe you don't like those jobs very much. 00:28:19.000 --> 00:28:25.000 Do you guys know what I'm talking about? Say 'oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) How long do you have to put up with those couple jobs, with those couple of places 00:28:26.000 --> 00:28:32.000 A few months, maybe a couple years, yes? Until you eventually graduate and start your career. In other words, temporary. 00:28:32.000 --> 00:28:38.000 Everybody say 'temporary. (AUDIENCE repeats) For how long do you have to live with... quitting or giving up on your dreams? 00:28:38.000 --> 00:28:40.000 00:28:40.000 --> 00:28:46.000 For the rest of your life. See, somebody once said, be kind to the person right next to you 00:28:46.000 --> 00:28:51.000 because that person might be fighting some really difficult battles. Does that make sense? 00:28:51.000 --> 00:28:56.000 So I want you to play make-believe that the person right next to you, your partner, is fighting some difficult, challenging times right now. 00:28:56.000 --> 00:28:61.000 I want you to look at that person with a little empathetic face-- or an apathetic face, or one of those faces... 00:29:01.000 --> 00:29:04.000 I want you to look at that person and say, 'Whatever you're going through is temporary. 00:29:08.000 --> 00:29:12.000 Look at the person and say, 'Whatever you're going through is temporary. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:29:12.000 --> 00:29:16.000 Your challenges are temporary. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:29:16.000 --> 00:29:20.000 YOur circumstances are temporary. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:29:20.000 --> 00:29:25.000 Hey! Life' (AUDIENCE MEMBER: 'Is permanent!') (laughter) 00:29:25.000 --> 00:29:28.000 Friends, even us... 00:29:28.000 --> 00:29:33.000 are temporary. So that gives you some perspective in a kind of negative/positive way. 00:29:33.000 --> 00:29:36.000 Is that right? Is life permanent? (AUDIENCE MEMBER: 'Oh, I wish.) 00:29:43.000 --> 00:29:47.000 Everybody say, 'I'm going to make the best. (AUDIENCE repeats) Awesome. 00:29:47.000 --> 00:29:50.000 Now, let's go back to this example on the board over here. Let's go back to this. How many of you 00:29:50.000 --> 00:29:55.000 How many of you have ever been to a bowling alley? If you've been to a bowling alley, raise your hand and say, 'oya. (AUDIENCE: 'Oya!') 00:29:55.000 --> 00:29:60.000 Awesome. So, good. I saw a couple hands, can I see here again? Raise your hand and say, 'oya. (AUDIENCE: 'Oya!') 00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.000 Awesome. So, our friend over here-- what is your name? (AUDIENCE MEMBER: 'Nancy.) Thank you so much for volunteering. 00:30:04.000 --> 00:30:09.000 You don't have to stand up. Just stay right there, Nancy. Let's pretend this is a bowling alley called 'Life. Everybody say "life." 00:30:13.000 --> 00:30:18.000 Nancy has no friends. Anybody wants to be Nancy's friend? Raise your hand, raise your hand. 00:30:18.000 --> 00:30:21.000 Alright, cool, you guys. This guy with the hat, I don't know about him. He looks like a stoner. 00:30:27.000 --> 00:30:32.000 Alright, could you pick someone ideally from this group over here? Do you have friends in this group? 00:30:32.000 --> 00:30:36.000 Like, ideally, the bestest of friends from this side or this group. 00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:39.000 Oh wow, you really have to look hard for somebody. You really have no friends. 00:30:39.000 --> 00:30:42.000 Alright, who, who? What's the name? Melissa. Who else? 00:30:52.000 --> 00:30:56.000 Melissa? Are you sure? And' what's your name? Alli. 00:30:56.000 --> 00:30:62.000 How about your family members? Who do you care about the most about in your family? 00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:08.000 Your parents? Mom and Dad? Now, you noticed she mentioned four people. We only have a space for two. 00:31:08.000 --> 00:31:11.000 So either your mom or your dad. Who do you care the most about? 00:31:14.000 --> 00:31:18.000 Just pick one, just to make my life easier. If you were to pick one. 00:31:26.000 --> 00:31:31.000 That was a trick question. So you really don't care about your dad. Very good, okay. (laughter) 00:31:31.000 --> 00:31:35.000 So, out of your two bestest of friends, Melissa and... 00:31:35.000 --> 00:31:41.000 this young lady here that you didn't even recognize in front of you' what was your name? Alli. Who do you care the most about? 00:31:43.000 --> 00:31:48.000 Well, Alli' could smack you. She's real close to you, so' (ALLI: Yeah, we met a whole hour ago.) 00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:51.000 Ok, so Melissa. You don't care about Alli. Good. (laughter) 00:31:51.000 --> 00:31:57.000 So, let's say you're standing here with the two people you care the most about-- not your dad, you didn't care about your dad-- your mom, 00:31:57.000 --> 00:31:62.000 and Melissa-- not Alli-- right there. In front of your wildest, wildest dreams. 00:32:12.000 --> 00:32:15.000 Alright, go ahead. (Nancy: 'To have like a really nice house') 00:32:15.000 --> 00:32:21.000 Have a nice beautiful home across from your' maybe all the way to the other side of this bowling alley called 'Life. 00:32:21.000 --> 00:32:24.000 You will have your dreams. Life will be happy ever after. 00:32:24.000 --> 00:32:28.000 To the perfect home, right there. Graduation from college, right there. What else? 00:32:28.000 --> 00:32:33.000 Making lots of money, right there. Happiness, right there. A couple husbands, right there. All you want. 00:32:33.000 --> 00:32:36.000 Alright, maybe not a couple husbands, but all you want is in front of you. 00:32:36.000 --> 00:32:40.000 So you start moving towards your dreams, and as you move forward, life is going to throw some... 00:32:41.000 --> 00:32:47.000 obstacles, challenges, whatever life throws. Okay, and you're going to get knocked down a couple times, but as you get knocked down you realize that 00:32:47.000 --> 00:32:51.000 the pain of moving forward is what? Because you were paying attention to the Cuban guy, 00:32:51.000 --> 00:32:55.000 so no matter how many times you get knocked down, you're going to get just up one more time. But as you get up one more time, 00:32:55.000 --> 00:32:60.000 you realize the two people you care the most about-- not your dad because you didn't care about your dad-- but your mom is down. 00:33:00.000 --> 00:33:04.000 And Melissa's down. Not Alli, you didn't care about her either. They're down. 00:33:04.000 --> 00:33:07.000 And you're up, and your dreams are in front of you. What are you going to do? 00:33:08.000 --> 00:33:13.000 This is the part where you tell me something. (pauses) Move forward? Without your mom? 00:33:13.000 --> 00:33:19.000 So you really don't care about anybody. Everybody say, 'That's mean!' (AUDIENCE repeats) That's harsh! (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:33:19.000 --> 00:33:23.000 But at times, it is necessary. 00:33:23.000 --> 00:33:28.000 Friends, there will be a time in your life when you might have to make a decision. True or false? 00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:45.000 Let's just say, let's just say nothing. Everybody say 'nothing. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:33:45.000 --> 00:33:50.000 How about a year from now? Nothing. How about 100 years from now? 00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:55.000 Which is also nothing. Very good, okay? So I mentioned that you move forward with or without, and then, 00:33:55.000 --> 00:33:61.000 you know, every now and then, I got some people who give me a hard time, so let me illustrate this. They say, 'I can't move forward on my boyfriend." 00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:12.000 I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' and then we're all going to clap. And we're talking about actions speak louder than... 00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:18.000 The Cuban guy. Anyway, so, I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. You guys got it, yes? 00:34:18.000 --> 00:34:23.000 Nod your head. Yes, yes, yes, Sir? He's nodding, he's nodding. Alright. 00:34:23.000 --> 00:34:30.000 Alright, I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. You guys got? Yes? Alright. 00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:36.000 Everybody go like this, go like this, go like this. Don't forget to smile. Okay, right here. I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. We're going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. 00:34:36.000 --> 00:34:42.000 Alright, cool. I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. I'm going to count to three... 00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:47.000 then I'm going-- (AUDIENCE MEMBER clapping) LARA: Patience. (laughter) 00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:52.000 It's a virtue, you know? (laughter) Alright, I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. Alright. 00:34:55.000 --> 00:34:59.000 You guys got that one? Yes, alright. I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. 00:34:59.000 --> 00:34:65.000 I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go'-- I'm not repeating this for you. I'm repeating it for myself just so I can remember, okay? 00:35:05.000 --> 00:35:10.000 I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. Some of you guys are like, 'This is getting tiring. 00:35:16.000 --> 00:35:20.000 Alright, camera people? Miss, you, all the way in the back? Very good, very good. Hey, you. You, too. Very good. 00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:24.000 Hey, you, too. Alright. Cool, cool, cool. Alright, camera people. Go like this, go like this. 00:35:24.000 --> 00:35:28.000 I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. They're like, 'Leave us alone. 00:35:28.000 --> 00:35:31.000 Are you ready? I'm going to count to three, then I'm going to say 'go,' then we're all going to clap. Ready? 00:35:31.000 --> 00:35:37.000 One, two, three! (AUDIENCE claps) Go! (scattered clapping) (LARA sighs) 00:35:37.000 --> 00:35:40.000 Some of you guys will get this later on tomorrow. (laughter) 00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:44.000 Some of you guys will never get this, and it's fine. It's fine, okay? 00:35:44.000 --> 00:35:48.000 The instructions were really, really simple. I'm going to count to' (AUDIENCE: 'Three.) 00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:53.000 Then I'm going to say' (AUDIENCE: 'Go.) Then we're all going to' (AUDIENCE: 'Clap.) How many times I repeated myself? 00:35:59.000 --> 00:35:64.000 Now, it didn't matter how many times I repeated myself. You didn't do what I asked you to do. You did what you... 00:36:05.000 --> 00:36:11.000 What you saw me doing. In other words, my actions have more influence on you than... my words. 00:36:11.000 --> 00:36:15.000 Friends, I understand when somebody from the audience, as I go around the country, somebody comes to me and is like, 00:36:20.000 --> 00:36:25.000 As a matter of fact, everybody turn to your partner and say, 'I'm trying to help somebody. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:36:25.000 --> 00:36:31.000 Come on, say it like you mean it. 'I'm trying to HELP somebody!' (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:36:31.000 --> 00:36:36.000 Friends, if you really want to help somebody, my advice to you is stop. 00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:39.000 Everybody say 'stop. (AUDIENCE repeats) Because the bottom line is this. 00:36:39.000 --> 00:36:45.000 You see, you can't help somebody else until you first' help yourself. 00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:51.000 Does that make sense? (pauses) Think about it. We could go with all those sayings that have been around for millions of years 00:36:51.000 --> 00:36:55.000 like, 'You can't help those who don't want to be' (AUDIENCE: 'Helped.) 00:36:55.000 --> 00:36:60.000 You can take the horse to the river, but you can't make him' (AUDIENCE: 'Drink.) 00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:04.000 Take a shower. Alright, let's stay with 'take a drink. Sounds better. So we get the point, okay? 00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:08.000 So eventually, you know you're going to have to move forward with or' (AUDIENCE: 'Without.) 00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:12.000 See, friends, I believe that every now and then, life will test you. 00:37:12.000 --> 00:37:18.000 Your circumstances will test you. Your challenges will test you, just to see how serious are 00:37:18.000 --> 00:37:24.000 about success. If in the midst of all you're going through, you choose to move forward with or 00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:36.000 to your circumstances, to your friends, to your family, and the message is this: I'm serious about success. 00:37:36.000 --> 00:37:40.000 See, I will never forget this. I was just graduating high school 00:37:40.000 --> 00:37:43.000 and, you know, I think I knew about going to college because somebody somebody said, 00:37:48.000 --> 00:37:52.000 in that area of where I was living. Anyway, I was so excited about applying to college-- 00:37:52.000 --> 00:37:56.000 I applied to about 20 different colleges, okay? Just in case, okay? 00:37:56.000 --> 00:37:62.000 How many of you applied to more than five colleges as you were going to apply to colleges? Raise your hand and say 'Oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:38:02.000 --> 00:38:05.000 I was paranoid, too, so I feel you. Okay, cool. 00:38:05.000 --> 00:38:10.000 I went to over 20 different colleges, and I will never forget the first day I got an application back. 00:38:10.000 --> 00:38:15.000 I had this, kind of like, butterfly feelings in my stomach. And I opened it up, I looked at it. What do you think it said? 00:38:18.000 --> 00:38:23.000 But it didn't just sound to me like 'denied. It sounded something like 'deni-i-i-i-i-i-ed. Something like that. 00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:29.000 Let's try this, everybody together. Just elongate the 'denied' thing, okay? Everybody say' (AUDIENCE: 'Deni-i-i-i-i-i-ed.) 00:38:29.000 --> 00:38:34.000 Elongate it. Everybody say 'deni-i-i-i-i-i-ed. Ready? One, two, three. (AUDIENCE: 'Deni-i-i-i-i-i-ed.) 00:38:34.000 --> 00:38:37.000 The next application came back. What do you think it said? (AUDIENCE: 'Deni-i-i-i-i-i-ed.) 00:38:40.000 --> 00:38:46.000 Denied. It was about the ninth application and I just could not believe my eyes. 00:38:46.000 --> 00:38:51.000 I looked at it, I started jumping up. I looked and I started jumping. I looked and I started jumping up and down' what do you think it said? 00:38:55.000 --> 00:38:61.000 I was devastated, to tell you the truth, okay. But eventually one application came back and said... 00:39:01.000 --> 00:39:08.000 Denied. (laughter) I stopped counting. But about one of those, like maybe 13 or 14, one of them said... 00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:20.000 Friends, I was excited. I was really, I was like, 'Wow, I get to do something with my life. I'm serious about success. I'm going for it. 00:39:20.000 --> 00:39:24.000 And right at that moment, somebody from the family die. 00:39:24.000 --> 00:39:28.000 Now, I don't think they die intentionally, but they just-- they died, okay? 00:39:28.000 --> 00:39:33.000 They also-- I had somebody in my family that had not one, but double kids in their fam-- 00:39:33.000 --> 00:39:38.000 in their' you know, they had two kids that came from nowhere, and somebody needed to 00:39:38.000 --> 00:39:41.000 take care of those two kids, and I needed to babysit. 00:39:41.000 --> 00:39:46.000 Now, in other words, I had a whole bunch of different things that just came up. 00:39:46.000 --> 00:39:49.000 In other words, life was what? 00:39:50.000 --> 00:39:55.000 Testing me. My circumstances... were testing me. 00:39:55.000 --> 00:39:61.000 My friends and family were testing me, just to see how serious I was about success. 00:40:01.000 --> 00:40:06.000 Friends' I believe that right now, sometimes... 00:40:06.000 --> 00:40:13.000 From now to the time you graduate, life will test you. And not just the kind of test you're going through. Maybe something even bigger. 00:40:13.000 --> 00:40:19.000 In the midst of this, you move to forward with or' (AUDIENCE: 'Without.) 00:40:19.000 --> 00:40:24.000 At that moment, you will send a message, and the message is' 'I'm serious about success. 00:40:24.000 --> 00:40:28.000 Look at your partner and say, 'I'm serious about success. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:40:28.000 --> 00:40:33.000 Come on, you got to say it like you mean it. Say, 'I'm serious about success. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:40:33.000 --> 00:40:38.000 What if, as you're serious about success, you choose to move forward, and what if the people you leave behind, 00:40:38.000 --> 00:40:42.000 what if those people try to hold you back? Could that happen, yes or no? (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) 00:40:42.000 --> 00:40:47.000 Can your best friend try to hold you back? (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) Could a boyfriend or girlfriend try to hold you back? (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) 00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:52.000 LARA: (chuckles) You say, 'Oh yes, definitely. Could a family member try to hold you back? (AUDIENCE: 'Yes.) 00:40:52.000 --> 00:40:56.000 That could happen, okay. Why would somebody you care about try to hold you back? 00:40:57.000 --> 00:40:60.000 They think it's best. Okay, what else? 00:41:01.000 --> 00:41:05.000 They're jealous. What else? They can't move forward. What else? 00:41:08.000 --> 00:41:13.000 Huh? They're thinking about themselves? Sometimes-- I'm trying to see if this stays-- 00:41:13.000 --> 00:41:20.000 Okay. Sometimes it could be something as nice as maybe they're trying to prevent you from getting hurt. 00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:24.000 Or maybe, in their mind, they're trying to prevent you from failure. 00:41:24.000 --> 00:41:29.000 Well, here's one thing you got to understand. Sometimes in life, in their attempts that people around us make, 00:41:29.000 --> 00:41:34.000 to prevent us from failure, they're also preventing us from... (AUDIENCE: 'Success.) 00:41:34.000 --> 00:41:40.000 Because, friends, I want you to remember this: Failures give you experience, and experience is what you need... 00:41:40.000 --> 00:41:46.000 if you want to become a success. Does that make sense? Everybody say, 'Oya. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:41:46.000 --> 00:41:53.000 Friends, can you tell me of one person, that you know of, that is extremely successful and has never ever failed? 00:41:55.000 --> 00:41:59.000 It's impossible. Successful people are successful 00:41:59.000 --> 00:41:62.000 because they've mastered the art of failure: 00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:09.000 going from failure to failure without losing their enthusiasm. It's okay to fail. 00:42:09.000 --> 00:42:15.000 Everybody say-- look at your partner and say, 'It's okay to fail. (AUDIENCE repeats) 'Just don't make it a habit. (AUDIENCE repeats) 00:42:15.000 --> 00:42:18.000 So, what is one of the things that people might say to hold you back? 00:42:18.000 --> 00:42:23.000 Negative stuff people might say. Anybody, just say something real fast. Go! (AUDIENCE MEMBER: 'What?') 00:42:23.000 --> 00:42:28.000 Negative things we might say to you to hold you back'. Please don't go! 00:42:29.000 --> 00:42:35.000 What else? ' 'You can't do that. Go ahead, help me out. 'You're not good enough. 00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:44.000 Alright, so let's just summarize it for you guys. People give you the guilt stuff: 'Oh, you don't love us anymore. 00:42:48.000 --> 00:42:53.000 She, over there all the way in the back with the orange shirt, she's laughing' do you have friends with benefits? (laughter) 00:42:53.000 --> 00:42:57.000 It's okay, it's okay. I'm not going to judge you. But now we know who you are, just wave at us. 00:42:57.000 --> 00:42:61.000 Just go like this. Alright, she got friends with benefits. That's cool, okay. 00:43:01.000 --> 00:43:06.000 You try to explore yourself. (laughter) It's fine, you're in college. Alright. 00:43:06.000 --> 00:43:11.000 They might say it's too hard, it's impossible, you're wasting your time, but sometimes they say stuff that makes no sense. 00:43:11.000 --> 00:43:16.000 Everybody say, 'makes no sense. (AUDIENCE repeats) Stuff like, you're slow, you're a retard, 00:43:16.000 --> 00:43:20.000 you're a loser, you're a failure, you're going to end up in the streets with STDs or 300 kids. 00:43:20.000 --> 00:43:26.000 I don't know what they might say, okay? But we know that many times all that is not true, but it's a whole bunch of... 00:43:27.000 --> 00:43:32.000 Everybody say, 'lies. (AUDIENCE repeats) So what happens to a lie when you hear it so many times? 00:43:33.000 --> 00:43:37.000 You start to believe it. See, if I could leave you with one question today, the question is this: 00:43:37.000 --> 00:43:41.000 What are some of the lies you've been told about yourself that you have believed? 00:43:44.000 --> 00:43:47.000 That is a rhetorical question you aren't suppose to answer. 00:43:47.000 --> 00:43:49.000 Now we also heard of people like Muhammad Ali. 00:43:49.000 --> 00:43:51.000 Muhammad Ali use to constantly say I'm the what? 00:43:52.000 --> 00:43:53.000 When he was saying I am the greatest. 00:43:53.000 --> 00:43:57.000 Who do you think he was trying to connivence? His family, the media, his friends? 00:43:58.000 --> 00:43:60.000 What he was doing was called positive self talk. 00:44:00.000 --> 00:44:03.000 Everybody stand up for a second, stand up real fast, everybody stand up real fast. 00:44:03.000 --> 00:44:06.000 Lets try this for a second. 00:44:06.000 --> 00:44:08.000 We are going to do this quick group positive self talk. 00:44:08.000 --> 00:44:10.000 When you hear the music, I want you to go around the room. 00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:13.000 Give a high ten to at least not 25, but maybe 22 people. 00:44:13.000 --> 00:44:14.000 and say, I am the what? 00:44:15.000 --> 00:44:19.000 If you see somebody going like, (Sarcastic)'I'm the greatest'. 00:44:19.000 --> 00:44:26.000 I want you to slap that person ok. So hyped up with a lot of energy to at least 21 people say, 'I'm the greatest 00:44:26.000 --> 00:44:31.000 You guys ready for this? Now when you hear the music stop you are going to stop. 00:45:04.000 --> 00:45:06.000 I want you to make eye contact with the last person you gave high ten to. 00:45:06.000 --> 00:45:12.000 Eye contact. Meaning you look at the persons eyes. Look at the persons eyes real fast. 00:45:17.000 --> 00:45:21.000 Look at that persons eyes. Now sit down close to where you are. Right where you are 00:45:21.000 --> 00:45:25.000 Right next to that new partner. Everybody reach over and say, Howdy partner, you're my new partner. Go. 00:45:27.000 --> 00:45:30.000 If you are real excited about your new partner say, oh yeah. 00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:31.000 Audience: Oh Yeah! 00:45:31.000 --> 00:45:33.000 If you are stuck with somebody you hate or dislike say, oh no. 00:45:35.000 --> 00:45:38.000 Oh you don't have to be that truthful. 00:45:38.000 --> 00:45:40.000 Introduce yourself to that person. Ideally you don't that person. 00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:44.000 Say something to that person. Go ahead. 00:45:55.000 --> 00:45:57.000 Alright you don't have a secret life, cool. 00:45:57.000 --> 00:45:63.000 Now lets try this for a second ok. We know its not what you say, it's how you say it. 00:46:03.000 --> 00:46:05.000 Is that right? 00:46:05.000 --> 00:46:09.000 Now everybody make eye contact with that person. Eye contact, eye contact look at the persons eyes. 00:46:09.000 --> 00:46:11.000 You got to look at the persons eyes, don't look at me. 00:46:11.000 --> 00:46:16.000 If that person is not looking at you its probably because they think you are ugly. 00:46:17.000 --> 00:46:19.000 I'm kidding look at the person. 00:46:20.000 --> 00:46:26.000 And of course it is you not looking at them is probably because you think they are the one who is ugly. 00:46:26.000 --> 00:46:29.000 Look at the person, keep looking at the person Cool. 00:46:29.000 --> 00:46:35.000 Now what I want you to do is real simple. I want you to act this out. Do you guys know what I mean by acting out? Yes. 00:46:35.000 --> 00:46:41.000 So, act this out. When you see the word 'oh,' look into the person's eyes as though Mike Tyson--everybody say 'Mike Tyson. 00:46:42.000 --> 00:46:47.000 Punch with all he's got into your stomach. And you're going to say 'oh' with excruciating pain, looking into the person's eyes. Go! 00:46:49.000 --> 00:46:56.000 Come on, I said 'act it out,' and you gotta really act it out! Ready? One, two, three go! 00:46:57.000 --> 00:46:62.000 Good. Keep looking into the person's eyes. And when you said the word 'oh,' looking at the person, keep looking at the person's eyes 00:47:02.000 --> 00:47:07.000 And so, there's a disgusting smell coming from the person's bottom. Go! 00:47:10.000 --> 00:47:17.000 I want you to say the word 'oh' as though you've won the lottery, two hundred and fifty million dollars. Go! (Crowd says) Oh! 00:47:17.000 --> 00:47:22.000 Honestly, how many of you would still be here? Be like, uh-oh Cuban guy, gotta go now. 00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:28.000 Look at the person one more time. Look at the person. Look at the person. Look at the person. I want you to say the word 'oh' as though you were feeling constipated. Go! 00:47:32.000 --> 00:47:38.000 Some of you guys got that look in your face like 'man how did he know?' I just can read people's mind. 00:47:38.000 --> 00:47:44.000 Alright, look at the person one last time. Look at the person one last time. Look at the person. I want you to give that person a little wink. 00:47:46.000 --> 00:47:52.000 Alright, alright, no, no, no, just seriously, okay? Look into the person's eyes. Look into the person's eyes. These two guys, I don't know 00:47:52.000 --> 00:47:56.000 I don't even know, this is weird. Alright, look into the person's eyes. This is the last time. 00:47:56.000 --> 00:47:60.000 When you say the word 'oh,' say it in a sexy kind of way. Go! 00:48:03.000 --> 00:48:07.000 Some of the guys are like 'I'm not doing this, this is weird. (Crowd Laughs) 00:48:07.000 --> 00:48:12.000 And some of the guys with their ladies are like 'Ooh. (Makes sexy noise) 00:48:12.000 --> 00:48:16.000 Just make sure you don't touch anybody else but yourself. Now, how many meanings could 00:48:16.000 --> 00:48:22.000 that one word have? (Crowd mumbles) Millions and millions. Again it's not about what you say, its about how you... 00:48:23.000 --> 00:48:28.000 See, I'll never forget this time when I was graduating college. And, uh, I remember 00:48:28.000 --> 00:48:31.000 turning to my family and friends and people around me and telling them 00:48:31.000 --> 00:48:36.000 This is what I want to do with my life. These are, you know, a list of my y dreams and goals. 00:48:36.000 --> 00:48:41.000 And they turned back to me and they said 'Look. I don't mean to be discouraging' but. 00:48:41.000 --> 00:48:44.000 And when someone tells you they don't mean to be discouraging, 'but, 00:48:46.000 --> 00:48:52.000 Really discouraging. And they gave a whole long list of why my dreams and goals would never ever work. 00:48:52.000 --> 00:48:60.000 They just didn't get it. They just didn't buy into my dreams and goals. How many of you have people in your life that just don't get it? 00:49:00.000 --> 00:49:04.000 They just don't buy into your dreams and goals? Raise your hand and say 'oh yeah. (Crowd answers 'oh yeah') 00:49:04.000 --> 00:49:08.000 Chances are, some people might never get it. And that's okay. See what I realized after a long time 00:49:08.000 --> 00:49:13.000 Everybody say 'Long time. (AUDIENCE says 'Long Time') Come on, say 'Long time! 00:49:15.000 --> 00:49:20.000 These two guys gave up on me. Just like (makes annoyed noise). Alright, what I realized after a long time 00:49:20.000 --> 00:49:24.000 was that the reason that the people around me didn't buy into my dreams 00:49:24.000 --> 00:49:28.000 and goals, it had nothing--everybody say 'nothing. (AUDIENCE says 'nothing') It had nothing 00:49:28.000 --> 00:49:32.000 to do with them. It had a lot to do with (pauses for audience to respond) 00:49:32.000 --> 00:49:36.000 See friends, I was communicating my dreams, goals and aspirations with disbelief 00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:40.000 With skepticism with doubt. 00:49:40.000 --> 00:49:44.000 My question to you is as you communicate your goals dreams and aspirations 00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:48.000 To a family member, to your roomate, to the people around you. Do you communicate 00:49:48.000 --> 00:49:52.000 those dreams and goals with disbelief with skepticism 00:49:52.000 --> 00:49:56.000 with doubt. Or do you communicate your dreams and goals and aspirations with 00:49:56.000 --> 00:49:60.000 belief with conviction, with that faith inside your heart that tells people 00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.000 I know my dreams will come true. Look at your partner 00:50:04.000 --> 00:50:08.000 and say, 'My dreams are coming true', (Crowd repeating 'My dreams are coming true'). They are coming true! 00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:16.000 Coming true! I just got 00:50:16.000 --> 00:50:20.000 here from Cuba. 00:50:20.000 --> 00:50:24.000 And people ask me 'how do you do it'? You see first I was a 00:50:24.000 --> 00:50:28.000 college student. I was a freshman and I was in a conference just like this and 00:50:28.000 --> 00:50:32.000 a motivational speaker came to our school. He started telling us how he used to live 00:50:32.000 --> 00:50:36.000 in the projects, now he is living his dreams. How he goes all around the world impacting peoples 00:50:36.000 --> 00:50:40.000 life. How sometimes he only works two, everybody say two. (Crowd repeats) Two. 00:50:40.000 --> 00:50:44.000 Two months out of the entire year. The other ten months, what do you think he does? 00:50:48.000 --> 00:50:52.000 I was like what is relaxed work? He said 'Well I just go on my house on the beach 00:50:52.000 --> 00:50:56.000 meditate, do some writing, consultation over the phone and stuff, but mainly 00:50:56.000 --> 00:50:60.000 it's just relaxed stuff'. Friends I don't know about you, but I was excited about that kind of 00:51:00.000 --> 00:51:04.000 relaxed stuff for ten months and he was getting paid. 00:51:04.000 --> 00:51:08.000 Now I was so excited I remember turning to the person right next to me on the audience and 00:51:08.000 --> 00:51:12.000 saying, you know what I know what I want to do and said I want to be a speaker! 00:51:12.000 --> 00:51:16.000 I didn't mean to scare you. I looked to the guys head, I want to be a speaker. The guy looked at me and said 'Sir 00:51:16.000 --> 00:51:20.000 if you want to be a speaker so bad all you gotta do is 00:51:20.000 --> 00:51:24.000 speak'! I was like that's it? 00:51:24.000 --> 00:51:28.000 That's it, I was like woah! I'm going to be a speaker. Wooh! 00:51:28.000 --> 00:51:32.000 There was only one challenge. I couldn't speak English. 00:51:32.000 --> 00:51:36.000 I know it's not as much of a challenge. Someone imagine it's kind of like 00:51:36.000 --> 00:51:40.000 you want to be the next Michael Jordan, but you have no arms or you want to be an 00:51:40.000 --> 00:51:44.000 olympic runner, but you have no legs. I wanted to be a world class speaker and I 00:51:44.000 --> 00:51:48.000 couldn't what? So, remember I couldn't speak English. 00:51:48.000 --> 00:51:52.000 So I remember turning back to this my own sign language back then, I was like sir you don't understand 00:51:52.000 --> 00:51:56.000 I can't speak English. The guy doesn't even blink. 00:51:56.000 --> 00:51:60.000 Then takes a book from the table, puts it it on his suitcase, and looks straight into my eyes 00:52:00.000 --> 00:52:04.000 and I will never forget what he said 00:52:04.000 --> 00:52:08.000 As he is looking straight into my eyes and as I'm looking back straight into his 00:52:08.000 --> 00:52:12.000 he said 'Where there is a will 00:52:12.000 --> 00:52:16.000 there is a way' And I looked at him one more time. I said sir you don't understand 00:52:16.000 --> 00:52:20.000 when I speak people laugh on my face you know. 00:52:20.000 --> 00:52:24.000 He sets down the book on his suitcase and looks straight into my eyes and he says 00:52:28.000 --> 00:52:32.000 I'm thinking by now, maybe this is one of those things that 00:52:32.000 --> 00:52:36.000 You are supposed to read between the lines, because I'm not getting what he is getting at you know? 00:52:36.000 --> 00:52:40.000 He takes his suitcase and he begins to walk towards the door and so he is leaving the the building 00:52:40.000 --> 00:52:44.000 And I'm just standing there and 00:52:44.000 --> 00:52:48.000 To tell you what it felt like. It felt like one of those once in a life time 00:52:48.000 --> 00:52:52.000 opportunities, that come knocking how many times? 00:52:52.000 --> 00:52:56.000 I didn't know what was the next thing I needed to do, but I knew 00:52:56.000 --> 00:52:60.000 That I needed to do something. So I started saying stuff to the guy but 00:53:00.000 --> 00:53:04.000 between you and I, I don't think he could understand me because back then I couldn't understand myself. 00:53:04.000 --> 00:53:08.000 But anyway, he kept on walking I kept saying stuff and all of the sudden he stops 00:53:08.000 --> 00:53:12.000 he put his suitcase on the table and makes a one-hundred and eighty degree turn 00:53:12.000 --> 00:53:16.000 and now he begins to walk towards me and he is walking towards me. 00:53:16.000 --> 00:53:20.000 There is something you have to understand about this guy, this guy is about the size of 00:53:20.000 --> 00:53:24.000 of Shaquille O'Neal. A scary kind of looking guy the kind of guy you see in a dark alley 00:53:24.000 --> 00:53:28.000 forget about the dark alley, the daylight you cross the street OK. 00:53:28.000 --> 00:53:32.000 He is walking towards me, guess what I'm doing? 00:53:32.000 --> 00:53:36.000 I'm walking back really fast. I'm the last person in the building 00:53:36.000 --> 00:53:40.000 I'm walking back, he is walking towards me. I'm walking back, he is walking towards me. I come between a wall 00:53:40.000 --> 00:53:44.000 and the guy is kind of looking down and I'm kind of looking up at him. Right at that moment 00:53:44.000 --> 00:53:48.000 I felt this warm wet feeling running through my leg. (Crowd laughing) Just kidding about that one 00:53:48.000 --> 00:53:52.000 Anyway, so he is looking down at me, I'm looking up at him and right at that moment 00:53:52.000 --> 00:53:62.000 He says something I will never forget, as he is looking down at me, he said, where there is a will, there is a way 00:54:02.000 --> 00:54:09.000 Then he went on to say, the minute you desire the dreams, as well as a homeless person, desires shelter 00:54:09.000 --> 00:54:14.000 The minute you desire the dream as well as a starving person desires food 00:54:14.000 --> 00:54:19.000 He said the minute you desire the dreams as well as a drowning person desires air. 00:54:19.000 --> 00:54:20.000 00:54:20.000 --> 00:54:25.000 He said a that moment you make your dreams into reality. 00:54:25.000 --> 00:54:29.000 At that moment you will find, a way. 00:54:29.000 --> 00:54:33.000 I looked at him, he looked at me, he walked away. 00:54:33.000 --> 00:54:37.000 I never saw him again in my life. I didn't quite understand what he meant. 00:54:37.000 --> 00:54:39.000 But something happened that night. 00:54:39.000 --> 00:54:44.000 As I left the building, as I went back to my dorm. 00:54:44.000 --> 00:54:49.000 As I law my head on my pillow, the last thought that came into my head that night was, 00:54:49.000 --> 00:54:52.000 I'm going to be a speaker. 00:54:52.000 --> 00:54:59.000 As I woke up the next morning, sitting on the ledge of my bed, my first thought that came into my head was, I'm going to be a speaker. 00:54:59.000 --> 00:54:62.000 As I walk through my campus that entire day, week, month, and year 00:55:02.000 --> 00:55:07.000 The thought that kept coming back again and again was, 00:55:07.000 --> 00:55:09.000 I'm going to be a speaker. 00:55:09.000 --> 00:55:11.000 It's been a few years later. 00:55:11.000 --> 00:55:16.000 Today, as I go all across the country, as I reach people from all around the world. 00:55:16.000 --> 00:55:22.000 As I step on stages in front of thousands of people, excited, waiting to hear the first word that's going to come out of my mouth. 00:55:22.000 --> 00:55:32.000 Before I say one word, I look at the audience, and the audience looks back, and right at that moment the first thought that comes into my head is, 00:55:32.000 --> 00:55:36.000 I am a speaker. 00:55:38.000 --> 00:55:42.000 Why am I sharing this with you? You might not want to be a speaker. 00:55:42.000 --> 00:55:51.000 That was my dream. You might not have the same obstacles and challenges like I had, like being on the street or begging for food or being constantly laughed in your face. 00:55:51.000 --> 00:55:59.000 Friends, those were my obstacles and challenges. The reason why I show this with you is because I know you have a dream. True or false? 00:56:00.000 --> 00:56:04.000 I also know you have some obstacles to overcome. True or false? 00:56:04.000 --> 00:56:11.000 Friends, the minute you develop the intense desire, there is no obstacle you can not overcome, there is no challenge you can not surpass. 00:56:11.000 --> 00:56:17.000 There is no distance you can not endure, you will become, unstoppable. 00:56:17.000 --> 00:56:23.000 A friend of mine asked me, how do I know that my thinking is on right path to success? 00:56:23.000 --> 00:56:34.000 I said to my friend, your thinking is on the right path towards success when it rains and you don't think about getting wet. 00:56:34.000 --> 00:56:49.000 When it hurts, and you don't think about the pain, when your tired and you don't think about sleeping, when your heartbroken and you don't think about 00:56:49.000 --> 00:56:54.000 McDonalds, this guy must still be hungry, hold in there with me 00:56:54.000 --> 00:56:60.000 When your frustrated, you don't think about your frustration, when your yelled at cursed at or discriminated against, or even put down. 00:57:00.000 --> 00:57:08.000 You don't think about how to get even, when you get knocked down, when your whole world begins to collapse on your shoulders, when you keep getting bad news. 00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:15.000 You don't think about why life is so unfair. when your buried in debts, and you have no money. 00:57:15.000 --> 00:57:17.000 and you didn't think about the scarcity of funds 00:57:17.000 --> 00:57:24.000 When your car breaks down, when you break down, when everything you have begins to fall apart and you don;t think about fixing. When there is death. 00:57:24.000 --> 00:57:28.000 or destruction and you found something missing or destroyed. When you're sadly 00:57:28.000 --> 00:57:32.000 depressed intimidated scared or hopeless and you don't think about being sad depressed 00:57:32.000 --> 00:57:36.000 intimidated scared or hopeless, because all you think about is 00:57:36.000 --> 00:57:40.000 what? Anybody wants to take a guess? 00:57:40.000 --> 00:57:44.000 Making your dreams become a reality 00:57:44.000 --> 00:57:48.000 I got this guy who came to me and said 'Man I have a dream I'm not that excited'. 00:57:48.000 --> 00:57:52.000 I was like friend, you have a dream and you're not that 00:57:52.000 --> 00:57:56.000 excited, maybe it is not your dream. 00:57:56.000 --> 00:57:60.000 Maybe it's your mom's dream, it's your uncle's dream, it's your cousins, it's your next door neighbors dogs dream 00:58:00.000 --> 00:58:04.000 but it's surely not your dream. If you have a dream you're not that excited, maybe it's time 00:58:04.000 --> 00:58:08.000 Time to get a what? A new dream. Let me just give you a 00:58:08.000 --> 00:58:12.000 a quick example of what I'm talking about. I went on a family reunion and a lot of my family 00:58:12.000 --> 00:58:16.000 lives in miami so I flew down there, we got together the night before the cruise 00:58:16.000 --> 00:58:20.000 and then we went on a cruise for seven nights. My question to you is this. 00:58:20.000 --> 00:58:24.000 when do you think we had the best night? Was it the last night of the cruise, the first night of the cruise or the night before the cruise? 00:58:32.000 --> 00:58:36.000 sense of anticipation, that sense of excitement. We had something to look 00:58:36.000 --> 00:58:40.000 forward to. First you can come to one of my relatives, 00:58:40.000 --> 00:58:44.000 the meanest of them all, and they will look at you 00:58:44.000 --> 00:58:48.000 and will think for a second and say don't worry, tomorrow 00:58:48.000 --> 00:58:52.000 we're going on a cruise, yeah! They were so excited 00:58:52.000 --> 00:58:56.000 That nothing, absolutely nothing could get them upset. They were 00:58:56.000 --> 00:58:60.000 They were so excited that nothing could throw them off. They were so excited that 00:59:00.000 --> 00:59:04.000 nothing, absolutely nothing could alter their state of mind. First, my last 00:59:04.000 --> 00:59:08.000 question to you is this. How would your life be like if 00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:12.000 you were so excited when looking towards your dreams that nothing 00:59:12.000 --> 00:59:16.000 absolutely nothing could hold you back? 00:59:16.000 --> 00:59:20.000 How would your life be like if you were so excited when looking towards a dream 00:59:20.000 --> 00:59:24.000 that nothing absolutely nothing could keep you down? 00:59:24.000 --> 00:59:28.000 Where would you be five, ten, fifteen years from today? 00:59:32.000 --> 00:59:36.000 Ready, ok go like this (spirit fingers) at the count of three. One, two, three! 00:59:40.000 --> 00:59:44.000 Now let's get it on for me. Thank you so much.